SANDY CAPPARELLI MEMORIAL SERVICE

We will be having a memorial service for Sandy Capparelli on May 20th at 1:00, please contact Kari Capparelli if you would like to attend at (951) 678-0258 or at Cappy6200@aol.com

Thanks,
Kari

Update 4/11/12

R.I.P. SANDRA MARY CAPPARELLI 10/21/53 to 4/2/12.


My mom passed away on Monday the 2nd of April at 2:15 pm. She was not in any pain and went peacefully. I had been home with her for the past week, I had not left the house for anything and on that Monday I had to go to the bank and during that hour she passed with her nurse here. Travis was home and her friend Tamara was here visiting. We believe she waited for me to leave to go so that I didn't have to go into her room and find her. She had been highly medicated with medication given every hour and a half to every two hours. The research for life company that we donated her to were here to pick her up 2 hours after and we said our goodbyes.

This has been very difficult for us and we miss her a lot but know she is in a better place where she is hanging out with her mom, my brother, her best friend Grace, her friend Muff, and finally got to hold our little cousin Seamus. We are all going to need time to adjust to life without her, I wake up in the morning every morning thinking she is still with me, I guess it will take awhile to let that go. I have cared for her since she first had her stroke in April of 06, so it had been 6 years of taking care of her that I find hard to let go of. Worrying about her had become my daily routine in life. It is bitter sweet, We had our baby on Thursday the 5th, 3 days after she passed and as much joy as that is we still miss my mom. It is hard to believe that she is gone. Like Travis says she was like one of our children that we just took care of and would do it all over again if had the chance. Our new baby has moms name as her middle name, Kalista Sandra and I know my mom would be honored. They may not have met physically but I know that my mom will be watching from time to time and I know she is proud of the family that we have become. This past week has been a whirlwind and we are just getting done reeling from it all.

We are going to have a ash spreading ceremony when they send us her ashes back on either the 19th or 20th of May, when I get more details I will let everyone know more. In the meantime we are just taking our time grieving and adjusting to the next chapter of life. My mom is finally home and is no longer sick, she finally has her speech back and her memory, for that I find peace.

Thank you everyone for reading the blog and keeping my mom in your prayers. I feel truly blessed to have had her as my mom and know you all loved her as well.

UPDATE 4/1/12

On Friday we called the nurse in because my mom stopped eating and drinking, They said that she has a fever and that it is a fever in her brain that happens when you are dying. They then raised her morphine levels to basically put her in a comatose state so that she feels no pain. We give her a high dose of morphine every hour and a half, and a high level of anti-anxiety every 3 hours. She is at peace and not in any pain at this point. The doctors are telling us that she sounds worse than she feels and that makes all of us feel better about this experience. Her heart is still ticking but nothing about her is here. This has been extremely difficult for us to watch, I keep waiting for her to sit up and start talking to me about her grand kids, but that part of her is already gone. We are all finding peace in knowing that she is at home with us, surrounded by the sounds of my kids. I know my mom would have wanted it that way.

We made arrangements for her already as well for after she passes, and because she wanted to be a donor but none of her organs are viable, we decided to donate her body to research. They will give us back her ashes in 3-5 weeks after she passes and we will then have a ash spreading ceremony with the chaplain that has been here for the past 6 weeks. We will hold this ceremony at the beach where we last saw Kenny, it is the beach where she had gotten married and after will go to one of her favorite restaurants down there. I will contact everyone when I know more about the details of the ceremony. I will then take the remaining ashes and spread some where my grandma is spread in Chicago and where my brother is spread in Seal Beach.

I know she may not make it to meet her final grandchild, but I am finding comfort in knowing that no matter what she will meet her one way or another. I don't want her sticking around just to meet her if she is in pain. I am getting induced on Thursday at 6 am and at this point don't know if she will still be here. The chaplain read her her last rights on Friday, so for her to still be here now is a little shocking. We are all exhausted emotionally and physically, Travis is working graveyard shifts and I am waking up every hour and a half to give medicine while very pregnant and uncomfortable. Cameron has been amazing through all of this. I am so proud of how he is handling all of this. We have expressed to him that this is not a bad thing, that grandma is going home and he is being very mature about everything. He even has chosen to stay with her at times instead of running off to do fun things with friends, Saying things like " I can do that anytime, I want to spend this time with my grandma".

I want to thank all of you for your prayers and thoughts. It has meant a lot to us.

I will post again when I know more info.

Sorry about the grammar, like I said I'm exhausted.